Family problem... mother and I.. please help?

Ok.. I'm not telling you to give up on her but if you have done all you can to make peace and come to terms with her and she still acts the same way then maybe you think about telling her that you'll always be there for her but communication has to stop. I say that because you have to think of your kid(s). if they are around that kind of language and harsh love then they'll grow up thinking that its ok to handle things that way, and also don't let that get you down because the bible says if you have truly forgiven someone and they won't accept your apology then its on their head.(paraphrased)... You can't change anyone. Like the saying goes you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink...